The SLAP Newsletter, Issue 003
December 2025
The SLAP Newsletter contains images and writing that are not safe for work. This includes, but is not limited to, nudity, sharps play, bruises, bondage, blood, and other kinky content. Reader discretion advised.
Announcements
- We now have a home for Frequently Asked Questions! If you don't see an answer you're looking for, reach out to us.
- Check out our Code of Conduct before attending our next event <3
- We want to feature your poetry, stories, photography, and art in our newsletter! Submit your kinky/queer/subversive/hot/exploratory works to 412cumSLAP@proton.me with the subject "Newsletter Submission."
Call for Submissions for SLAP Zine Issue 002
Got a tale to tell from a SLAP event? Did you meet someone interesting? See something wild? Get hit in just the right way? We want to hear about it! Contribute your story here to be included in the next SLAP zine. In 250 words or less, tell us your funny, freaky, weird, kinky stories, and help us build SLAP history.
Sutures by Chess, flesh by Gabe, photos by Goddess Seraphia (NYC). SLAP paddle by Luca DeGroot.
Next SLAP Event: Monday, December 15th
Sadomasochist and Leather Readers of Pittsburgh (SLRP)
Our book club now spans regions! Connect with leatherfolk around the country and bond over discussions of kinky texts <3
Currently Reading: To Love, to Obey, to Serve: Diary of an Old Guard Slave (1999) by V.M. Johnson
Next meeting: 12/18, 7:30pm EST
The SLAP Newsletter is Supported by Emberhide Artistry
Emberhide Artistry is a queer-owned, Pittsburgh-based small business specializing in handcrafted leather collars, cuffs, belts, accessories, and more. Every piece is custom-made by artist and designer Benji Storm, who brings bold design, meticulous craftsmanship and vibrant artistry to each creation. Benji uniquely offers speedy turnaround, travel for in-person fittings, alteration services and a lifetime warranty on all of his work because leather should last a lifetime.
SLAP Fundraiser Breakdowns
October 20th @ Mary's
Door Donations: $221
$165.75 went to Dionysus's Support Fund | $55.25 went to SLAP
November 17th @ Mary's
Door Donations: $325
$243.75 went to Food Not Bombs | $81.25 went to SLAP
The SLAP Newsletter is Supported by Absence ov Art
Commissioning Flyers, Album Art, Merch Designs, Chain Wearables, Smut, Etc. | Get Started: omaha.punkster@proton.me
Personals
Want to add a transmasc to your toy box? Bi pleasure sub looking for a Dominant to use him as a masturbation aid in high-protocol play on a recurring basis. Sadists, bondage enthusiasts and control freaks encouraged.
Our personal ads have a 100% response rate! We will post your personal ad in one issue, after which it will live indefinitely on our Personals webpage.
Price: $10-15 sliding scale
SLAP does not inherently condone the requested connections or activities through publishing. Play at your skill level and be aware of risks while playing. We support a world where all are free to engage in whatever consensual activities they wish.
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Ask Your Queer Auntie
I'm a queer NB femme with 30 years of kink experience. Not a therapist and have no formal medical or psychological training. Responses are my opinion and shouldn't be taken as gospel.
Dear Queer Auntie,
I've been struggling to really embrace/accept my inner sadist, mostly due to some internalized homophobia that I'm still trying to shed. Any advice on how to embrace this desire? I've had a decent amount of domming experience, and it's an amazing time, but I can't quite shake the worry in the back of my head that it secretly makes me a monster. Does letting go of the internalized nonsense just come with time?
With gratitude,
Domming Desires
Dear Domming,
Part of the game is unleashing your inner monster. I'm positive that whatever you want, someone else wants to be on the receiving end.
I do some terrible things to some lovely people because we've agreed to those things in advance. I get to inflict pain, punishment, and humiliation because I have willing partners who trust me.
And even though consent is present, I've had shame based top drop after intense play. It always came down to not understanding my own emotional limits. I don't regret any play and I know more now about the hot things to think about or threaten without actually doing.
After an extended or emotionally intense play, a written scene report is required from the bottom within 24 hours. I want to quickly assess what worked and didn't as well as emotional impact before, during, and after. Then I can provide a thoughtful response and gauge my interest in repeating the play or not. Think of this as a play love letter.
So some pieces of advice: some things are better left to fantasy; own your desires and do them as safely as possible; require written scene reports within 24 hours to gauge both your and your partner's reactions; and you're allowed to not want to do things if you tried it and it didn't work.
BDSM is supposed to be enjoyable and if any play is not for any reason, stop doing it. And please try to get a mentor to talk through scenes in advance. Community is important for this exact reason.
Signed,
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